One of the best things you can ever do for yourself is to believe in your own self, believe in your own abilities. Let go of negative self-talk (head trash) things you’ve let build up in your head that’s keeping you from reaching your full potential. Confidence is a skill not a personality trait belonging only to certain people. Confidence begins with action. The more you develop yourself, skills and stretch yourself, the more confident you become.
Confidence isn’t about throwing your weight around or talking over people or always being the first to jump in. Self-confidence is not bossy or annoying. Bossy comes from a place of insecurities and arrogance.
Yeah, I know, I know… this is easier said than done. But today I’m going to share with you 9 simple tips, tricks and adjustments you can make to improve your confident no matter what.
Everyone can work to gain more confidence. Here are a few tips to try:
- 1. Get out of your head. When you stop engaging in the present moment and begin to think about how you look, sound, feel, etc., you’re creating an immediate disconnect. You immediately lose confidence. This loss of confidence creates an energetic wave that is felt by everyone in the same room, interacting with you or listening to you speak. Confident people are 100 percent engaged in the present moment.
- 2. Build a confident mindset. Define your purpose, focus on solutions, play to your strengths and take action. When your inner voice says “I can’t,” retrain it to say “I can.” Or you could also say, “I know I can learn this if I put my mind to it.”
- 3. Own it. Whatever “it” is. Whether it’s your opinions, emotions, feelings, words or choice of food or clothing style, just own it. Don’t give a single thought to what anyone else in the room would think of what you’re doing. You are you, you want what you want and you do what you do. No apologies. No explanation. Just own it! For the longest time I struggled to own my personality, my view of the world, my way of thinking and my feelings. Not only did I lack confidence, I was stressed, uncomfortable and completely miserable trying to “fit in” with the rest of the world.
- 4. Compare yourself to no one. I cannot say this too strongly: Do not compare yourselves to others. Be true to who you are, and continue to learn with all your might. Every flower blooms at a different pace. Owning your story and loving yourself through that process is the bravest thing you’ll ever do. Compare yourself only to your past you.
- 5. Shake off self-doubt. William Shakespeare said “Our doubts are traitors, and make us lose the good we oft might win, by fearing to attempt.” When we doubt our abilities, we feel inferior, unworthy, or unprepared. That can make us avoid people and situations we might enjoy and grow from.
- 6. Boast confidence through breathing exercises. According to a study by the University of Minnesota, adults get in the habit of using their chest muscles. That’s a problem because chest breathing is an evolutionary adaptation to emergency situations. However, because of a bad habit, we learn to rely on chest breathing most of the time. This comes back to haunt us when we in social gatherings or speaking in public because that’s a time where we need more oxygen. Find proper breathing exercises here
- 7. Challenge yourself to do something that’s just beyond your normal comfort zone. Pick something you’d like to do if only you had more confidence. Give yourself a little push and do it. Now that you’ve done that, pick something else to try — and keep repeating this same process. Confidence grows with every step forward. Doing only what you’re comfortable with can ruined you.
- 8. Know your talents and help them shine. Develop yourself, your talents and skills. Don’t be afraid to be amazing. Like already mentioned, the best source of self-confidence is believing in yourself and your abilities, doing the right thing, pushing yourself, pushing your own limits, checking things off your to-do-list, etc.
- 9. Dare to be the real you. Let others see you for who you are — mistakes, insecurities, and all. Insecurities are easier to move past when you don’t feel like you have to hide them. Embrace your quirks instead of trying to hide them or acting in a way that’s not true to you. If you’re feeling sad or moody, just own it. Be sad, be moody. Are you nervous as hell? Own it. Tell everyone that you’re nervous as hell! It stops the process of pretense and anxiety dead in it’s tracks. By honoring who you are and what you truly prefer in life, you’re creating an environment for confidence. You’re allowing yourself to be comfortable. In turn, you attract the right people and right opportunities into your life. It takes courage and confidence to be real. The more real you are, the more self-confident you become. Don’t ever pretend to be someone or something you’re not! Just be you. You are amazing! You are unique! You are enough! You will be so much happier and more confident when you just settle into who you are.
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