Never change who you are just to please someone else. Please yourself first and then you will attract someone who is pleased with you. Date/marry at the level of your brains and self-esteem. Sometimes, relationships are a direct reflection of our own self-worth.
“YOU CAN’T MARRY “A DANGOTE” IF YOU CAN’T SUSTAIN A CONVERSATION WITH HIM.” Before you admire any man/woman, the first question is; do you have the brains to sustain a conversation with him/her? Alot of woman are attracted to men in powerful positions and wealthy men in general but are you his “BRAIN MATE”? Can he hold a boardroom conversation with you? Or are your conversations only going to be in the bedroom? Same questions also go to men seeking to marry intelligent/successful women. Are you her “BRAIN MATE”? Can you handle her brilliance.
Wise men and women admire brains before the body or SWAG. Dear men, do not look at her coca cola shape body because it is her brain and emotional state that will raise your children. Women should not only look at power, wealth and a six pack because it is his brain and emotional state that matters the most.
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Some men want a woman who’s below them, who’ll look up to them to make them feel powerful but actually only an equal can make him feel like the king in the most authentic way not out of fear or some obligation.
Sometimes, women do the same thing too. They meet a man that’s got potential, and they vow to get the man to realize his potential. They become his amazing cheerleader. They try to bring the man to be what they want or what they imagine him to be. But it usually doesn’t work because you’re not dating somebody who is on equally high vibration levels. If you’re constantly trying to bring someone up or get them to feel better about themselves, get them to believe in themselves, you’re basically going to be on a coach/teacher/cheerleader mode most of the time and eventually you’d get tired and drained physically and emotionally.
Find someone at your level, brain-wise and emotionally wise so that the two of you can bring out the best in one another. It will be a relationship or marriage based on co-creation. You’ll understand one another. You’ll speak the same language as each other, and most importantly, you’ll really start to become the person you always imagined yourself to be.
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Relationships are amazing when you find someone who is your equal because you can co-create, understand each other, and have a completely safe environment to do so. You feel safe and secure and able to expose who you really are with no fear of judgements
So, think about the relationship right now. Is it built on equality? Or you’re trying to bring the person to your level? A person who is happy with themselves will be happy with you and bring out the best in you. In brief; you can happily marry someone you can sustain a conversation with.
By Nicky Verd
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